Express these needs more dynamically through I-messages. Get free from the needs. 3. Get free from subconscious beliefs fears, To change some behavior which prevents the other from feeling like responding to your need. Some combination of the above.

Robert Elias Najemy - 115 - Remove Pain – Physical and Emotional Having done so, seek to discover whether your lesson is to:

1. Express these needs more dynamically through I-messages.

2. Get free from the needs. 3. Get free from subconscious beliefs fears,

guilt that prevent you from manifesting this need.

4. To change some behavior which prevents the other from feeling like responding to your need.

5. Some combination of the above.

According to what you find, then employ EFT for each obstacle towards any of these four possible lessons so that you can move forward. According to your discoveries, make a plan for proceeding toward a happier reality. Tuning into the other’s needs. Mark what you believe the other needs more of from you: 1. Love or greater expression of it 2. Respect 3. Understanding of what? 4. To accept them as they are 5. Acknowledgement and affirmation 6. Trust 7. Freedom to think and function as they believe and in accordance with their needs 8. A peaceful environment 9. Support and encouragement in the cultivation of their abilities and powers 10. To be listened to without criticism or advice 11. To be satisfied with them 12. To inspire them 13. To be just with them – for us to behave toward them as we would like them to behave toward us 14. To agree with their beliefs and ideals or at least accept and respect them 15. To express our true feelings, needs and beliefs 16. Freedom of movement 17. To keep our agreements 18. To have patience with their weaknesses 19. To be supportive during difficult moments 20. To express gratitude for all that they offer us 21. To acknowledge their positive qualities 22. To be able to be alone when they do not feel well or when they have the need 23. To get out more often 24. To get more rest 25. To receive more help with the chores 26. To be given greater attention when they speak 27. To do more things together 28. For greater responsibility on our part 29. To be on time 30. To receive more help and cooperation in keeping order and cleanliness 31. To behave as they like in the home and elsewhere 32. For us to take care of ourselves For romantic relationship partners 33. Affection and erotic contact 34. To be sexually devoted to only them Other_____________________________ You might also want to consider which needs might be behind the other’s: Complaining Criticism Impatience Refusal to cooperate Reactions Conflicts and arguments Games he or she plays Competitiveness Teaching and sermonizing Anger Now place a special mark on the other’s needs that you consider to be the least satisfied by yourself in this relationship. Then consider possible lessons:

1. To feel okay even if your loved one’s need is not satisfied