No one else but he or she can give me joy or security. My life has no meaning without him her. 5. I want to die; I want to be with him her. Death is a bad, painful experience. 7. I don’t have the right to be happy since my I will betray my loved one if

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11. We might also feel anger toward or rejection from our loved one who chose to

leave the earth plane at this time, leaving us here alone. We may interpret this as a form of rejection, abandonment and lack of love. A.1. Even though I feel angry towards name _____ for leaving me here, I deeply and profoundly love myself. A.2. Even though until now I felt angry towards name _____ for leaving me here, I now trust that powers higher than heshe control life and death.

B. I choose want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit to be free from

feeling anger towards name _____ for leaving me here. C. Reminder Phrase = Anger towards name _____ for leaving me here.

12. We may also feel guilty shameful if we do not feel pain. We might feel that we must

feel unhappy and that we should never express joy in front of others for some time at least. A.1. Even though I feel guilty shameful that I am not as unhappy as I think I “should” be, I deeply and profoundly love myself. A.2. Even though until now I felt guilty shameful that I am not as unhappy as I thought I “should” be, I now realize that such feelings help no one.

B. I choose want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit to be free from

feeling guilty - shameful that I am not as unhappy as I think I “should” be.

C. Reminder Phrase = Guilt - shame that I am not as unhappy as I think I “should” be.

There may be many other emotions that are not listed here. Negative Thought Forms About the Death of a Loved One The following beliefs can add to our emotional disturbance and some can also act in a way to create forms of psychological reversal. If you find that any of these beliefs are working within you, you might want to employ EFT on them, or even better, on the emotions that they create.

1. I cannot live without him her. 2. I am not secure without him her.

3. No one else but he or she can give me joy or security.

4. My life has no meaning without him her. 5. I want to die; I want to be with him her.

6. Death is a bad, painful experience. 7. I don’t have the right to be happy since my

loved one has died.

8. I will betray my loved one if I allow myself to be happy.

9. I will betray my loved one if I love someone else as much as I loved him her.

10. I will betray my loved one if I find a different purpose and meaning in my life.

11. I have been treated unjustly. 12. I am unlucky.

13. I am the most miserable person I know. 14. The other’s death is a punishment for him or

me.

15. I am a sinner; otherwise God would not have punished me in this manner.

16. God does not love me since He allowed my loved one to die.

17. There is no God; otherwise He would not have allowed my loved one to die.

18. It is my fault heshe died. I could have done something more.

1 9 . I did not have the chance to correct my relationship with him or her. I feel guilty. I was not entirely correct.

20. He she deserted me. He she left me alone.

Robert Elias Najemy - 87 - Remove Pain – Physical and Emotional Positive Thought Forms There are some beliefs or thought forms, which can be very supportive in our effort to cope with the death of a loved one. If you find any of these helpful, write them down with large letters and place them where you can see them often. Feel free to alter them to apply more appropriately to your own specific needs. They may also be used as positive affirmations in your EFT sequences. 1. I am an eternal soul and have the power to live an abundant and meaningful life. All is within me.

2. My loved one is an eternal, immortal soul who continues to live in another dimension more