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Chapter Twenty-six
EFT FOR INNER CONFLICTS
Techniques for Reconciling Personas or “Sub-Personalities”
We occasionally experience internally conflicting needs, desires or beliefs. With such inner
conflicts, when our sub-personalities or personas have conflicting needs, we are not sure
what to do or which decision to make. Some examples of those conflicts are listed below.
As you read through them, consider whether or not you have any similar conflicts.
Some Sample Conflicts
Let us look at some examples of the inner conflicts that may disturb our peace.
1. One part of ourselves may feel we need to spend more time on our professional life while
another part may believe we should spend more time with our family.
2. A part of ourselves may want to open up to a conscious love relationship, while another part
f e a r s being abandoned, hurt, suppressed, manipulated, or being unable to be ourselves in
that relationship.
3. One part of ourselves may want to give those around us children, spouses, friends total
freedom to pursue their happiness in their own ways, while another part fears losing control.
4. The part of ourselves that wants to please others may come into direct conflict with our
desire to satisfy our own needs.
5. Part of ourselves may want others to support us, while the other feels restricted by their
support or advice.
6. One part of ourselves may want spiritual growth, while another may feel the need for
material security. 7. One part of ourselves may want to help loved
ones and friends, but the other may feel that perhaps we are doing them harm by continuously
bailing them out and not letting them solve their own problems.
8. One part of ourselves may feel a need to protect the planet by living a simple life with
very little consumption of energy and products, while another part may want to enjoy all the
comforts of an energy consuming, pollution producing lifestyle.
9. One part of ourselves may want to take a new job or leave a job that we have, while another part
wants the opposite for different reasons.
1 0 . One part of ourselves may believe in cooperating with others, while another finds
that difficult.
11. One part of ourselves may have a desire for various objects or situations as a source of
pleasure, while another part may feel, this is a sin, or that we are not spiritual if we partake of
such pleasures. It may feel this type of pleasure seeking is a waste of time and e n e r g y
considering our spiritual goals.
12. One part of ourselves may feel the need to have an exclusive relationship in which our
happiness and security depend upon another person usually a mate. Another part may find
this an obstacle toward its need for independence, self-sufficiency, and freedom.
13. Our need for personal love may conflict with our need to develop universal love.
14. Our need to forgive may conflict with our need to hold on to negative feelings toward
someone. 15. Our need to employ various disciplines may
conflict with our need to feel free to do whatever we please whenever we choose.
16. Our need to follow our inner voice may conflict with our need to be like others and be
accepted by them.
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17. Our need to express our feelings as they are may conflict with our need not to hurt
anyone.
18. Our need to express our real feelings and thoughts might clash with our need to have the
others’ acceptance.
19. Our need to follow a spiritual guide might conflict with our need to rebel against all types of
advice or control.
20. O u r need to control persons and situations in order to feel secure may conflict with
our need to let things flow and allow others to act freely.
21. Our need never to show weakness may conflict with our need to share our weaknesses
with others or seek their help.
22. Our desire not to ask anything from others may conflict with our need to have their help and
support.
23. O u r need for a stable routine for our balance and growth may conflict with our need for
variety and change.
24. Our need to play our familiar emotional relationship games may conflict with our
