Did they ever accuse you of being the cause for their unhappiness or illness or problems? Did they ever tell you that you are not going to achieve anything in your life, that you are Were you ever caught playing with your genitals alone or with others

Robert Elias Najemy - 121 - Remove Pain – Physical and Emotional 10. Were you ever aware of your parents or anyone else making love? Who and when? How did you feel and what did you think?

11. Did your parents ever state that you were the only reason they continued staying together and

that that had been a big sacrifice on their part? Or, did they ever tell you they have sacrificed a great deal for your sake, and that you are indebted to them? Who? When? About what matters? What exactly do you owe them? 12. Did they ever accuse you of being the cause for their unhappiness or illness or problems? Who accused you and about what exactly? What did they mean that it was your fault? What does this fact mean to you? According to them what should you have done?

13. Did they ever tell you that you are not going to achieve anything in your life, that you are

lazy or incapable, or dumb? Who, when and concerning what matters?

14. Were you ever caught playing with your genitals alone or with others and did anyone

make you feel guilty for that? Who? When? What was their message?

15. Did they often speak about guilt and punishment from some person - parent, police

or God? Who? When? About what types of guilt and what types of punishment? 1 6 . Did any teacher ever make you feel humiliated in front of other children? When? How? Concerning what? 17. In the company of other children, did you ever feel rejected or inferior? By whom, and inferior by what criteria? 1 8 . Were you ever told that you were responsible for your siblings or for others in general, and that whatever happens to them is your responsibility? Who told you this? About whom? Concerning what matters were you responsible?

19. Were you ever made to understand in some way negatively or positively that, in order for

someone to be acceptable and lovable, one must: a. Be better than the others? b. Be first at everything? c. Be perfect, without faults? d. Be intelligent and clever? e. Be handsome beautiful? f. Have perfect order and cleanliness at home? g. Have great success in hisher love life? h. Have financial and social success? i. Be accepted by everyone? j. Be active in many ways? Achieve many things? k. Always satisfy the needs of others? l. Never say “no” to others? m. Not express hisher needs?

20. Did anyone ever make you understand in some way that you are incapable of thinking,

making decisions or achieving things by yourself, and that you will always need to listen to advice and depend on others? Who passed on this message to you? Which matters are you supposedly “incapable” of making decisions about or handling properly?

21. Did you ever have role models parents, older siblings or others who were, or still are,