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15. The physical pain or weakness which make the body an unpleasant place to be.
1 6 . Shame or anger because we have to be dependent on others.
17. Anger at someone perhaps even God who we believe is responsible for our present reality.
18. Depression because we are going to be leaving all that we know.
19. Depression because we cannot do things we like to do. Walk in nature, dance, eat what we like
etc.
20. Some people have a fear of being buried and feeling suffocated. This can create a general panic
around the idea of death. One possible theory might be that they have been buried prematurely
and woke up in the grave in a previous life, only then to die without air and light.
21. Others fear death because they feel that they are guilty because they have been the “cause of” or
because they have “wished for” someone else’s death usually in childhood. This creates a fear of
death and resulting punishment.
After so many chapters of sample setup and reminder phrases, I believe that it should be easy
for you now to create your own while working with the above possible aspects of getting feeling
free to leave our bodies when the time comes with dignity, peace and joy .
Facing our own Death
We can overcome our fear of death, by becoming familiar with it, and by becoming familiar with
our true selves. We can be ready at every moment to die peacefully, consciously and spiritually by
living in the following way.
1 Live our lives with intensity in harmony with our goals and ambitions in life.
2 Discover the purpose for which we have incarnated and work toward that purpose.
3 Seek to find greater harmony in our relationships, at least from our own part, through
unconditional love.
4 Practice regular self-examination always seeking to improve the functioning of the
personality; and discover our true spiritual nature.
5 Transform our belief system from “I am this body” to “I am a spirit which has this body”.
6 Learn to relax and concentrate the mind through regular relaxation, mind control, prayer
and meditation.
7 Live lives in harmony with our conscience. Do to others, as we would like them to do to us.
8 Develop faith in, and love for, God. 9 Detach ourselves from the dependencies and
addictions.
10 Develop self-awareness in the waking and dream state, and learn to manipulate our dream
reality.
Obviously preparing for death has nothing to do with retreating from life, but rather living life
more bravely. In this way we are not tempted to waste time or energy on meaningless, vain
activities, which do not contribute to the quality of our lives.
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Chapter 30
A Unifying Theory
Thought Field Therapy Emotional Freedom Techniques Psychoanalysis, Cognitive Psychology,
Healing the Inner Child, Catharsis and EMDR
I am writing this more for myself than for anyone else as I seek to develop a basic model which will
formulate a unified understanding of how the above mentioned various psychological disciplines
work. I have found them all useful and have employed them on myself in addition to sharing
them with around 150,000 others through lectures, seminars, books and cassettes
throughout the last 35 years.
The Apparent Conflict
TFT Thought Field Therapy by Dr. Roger Callahan and its offshoots such as EFT
Emotional Freedom Techniques by Callahan’s student Gary Craig seem to apparently conflict
with the premises of Cognitive Therapy concerning whether our emotions are caused by
our beliefs or a disturbed energy field created when we think of the stimulus. The word
apparently is in quotation marks because what is apparent is often not true.
We have a similar apparent conflict with cathartic psychological approaches, which heal by
bringing hidden pain, anger or guilt to the surface so that it can be released through some form of
catharsis. After its release, we can install a new alternative, more objective and positive
perception of ourselves and reality.
Without catharsis, psychotherapy or cognitive therapy can be like trying to record new music or
information beliefs on a prerecorded cassette, which we have not yet erased. We will hear two
recordings - two simultaneous belief systems - subconscious and conscious.
No matter how much we strengthen our affirmations or new positive beliefs, if the old ones
are still there, they will overpower our new intellectually based perceptions. Intellectual
conscious understanding and spiritual beliefs are usually weaker than automatic unconscious
experience-based emotional reactions. TFT and EFT, on the other hand, demonstrate
daily that most often neither analysis nor catharsis is necessary in order to eliminate
not suppress unwanted emotions.
New Discoveries Often Encompass Previous Conceptions
Science often evolves in ways so that new discoveries do not actually reject previous
perceptions but often encompass them while describing greater realties, which include and also
transcend our previous conceptions.
An example is that of Einstein’s law of relativity which does not negate Newton’s laws of motion
but simply explains that for objects with sufficient mass larger than atoms moving considerably
slower than the speed of light, Newton’s and Einstein’s laws give essentially the same
results.
So now with Thought Field Therapy, in my opinion, we are moving on to an understanding
that includes, validates and also transcends the hypotheses of:
1. Cognitive Therapy = emotions are created by beliefs - thoughts.